Last year during National Infertility Awareness Week (#NIAW), I posted 5 Things I Want You to Know. This year, I'm revisiting those five things and also giving a bit of an update. I would love to hear from you, so make sure you blog back to me!
Making assumptions is something I'm super guilty of, but it's one of the worst things we can do. Making assumptions inhibits compassion or the ability to weep with those who weep and rejoice with those who rejoice. Just because someone has a child, or isn't married, or has adopted, or has lots and lots of kids doesn't mean anything about where they've been or what they may currently be struggling with. There are so many examples of this with infertility, failed adoptions, miscarriages, prolonged adoptions, and more.
For me, today, I look at my family and feel so so blessed to have Brighten, but I still see an incomplete Morales family because we are still waiting on Judah. There are some days that I live life normally and I can easily accept that this is just where God has us right now. Other days it is so, so hard.
In those tender moments, I hope that God brings people around me who will weep with me and not make assumptions about how I do, or should feel. And I hope that someday when we bring Judah home, these same friends will be rejoicing with us!
I think it's important that we don't create a world for ourselves in which we tip-toe around one another, but rather have intentional conversations where we learn about each other in a way that lends itself to compassion and empathy.
Lately I've seen people post pregnancy announcements and then start private Instagram accounts or Facebook groups for those who want to follow along with their pregnancy and birth stories. I think that this depicts what it means to be women who love each other well. By saying, "Hey, I'm super stoked about this news that I have and I want you to know about it, but I recognize that this may be hard for some of you to follow, so you can do that over here if you choose to," gives way for there to be room for all of us and our stories and celebrations and struggles.